What if constantly trying to become your “best self” is actually making it harder to love the person you are right now?
We’re big believers in growth, healing, learning, therapy, and becoming more of who you want to be. But in this episode, we’re asking a harder question: When does self-improvement stop supporting you and start becoming self-rejection?
We talk about the endless hamster wheel of healing, self-help books, wellness advice, comparison, courses, experts, fitness goals, and the sneaky belief that happiness is waiting somewhere in the future.
“When I lose the weight…”
“When I heal this…”
“When my business reaches this level…”
“When I finally fix this part of myself…”
But what happens to the version of you who’s here right now?
In this episode, we’re talking about finding the middle ground between staying stuck and constantly treating yourself like a project that needs fixing. We unpack self-trust, personal mission statements, comparison, anxiety, listening to your own needs, and learning how to pursue growth without abandoning yourself in the process.
We talk about:
• Self-improvement vs. self-rejection
• Why there’s no finish line for healing
• The “I’ll be happy when…” trap
• How comparison fuels self-abandonment
• Knowing your WHY before chasing another goal
• Why every expert doesn’t have your answer
• Trusting yourself again
• Finding the healthy middle ground between growth and acceptance
• Loving who you are while still wanting more for yourself
💬 Tell us in the comments: What’s something that helps you feel grounded in who you are right now?
00:00 Stop Trying to Be Your Best Self
00:30 Is Self-Improvement Actually Self-Rejection?
02:30 The “I’ll Be Happy When…” Trap
04:10 When Growth Becomes Toxic
05:10 The Great Canoe Detour 😂
07:10 Why Are You Trying to Change?
09:00 Growth or Punishment?
11:05 When Wellness Advice Goes Too Far
12:35 The Self-Help Hamster Wheel
15:00 What’s Your Personal Mission Statement?
17:10 Are You Abandoning Yourself?
18:25 Comparison Changes Everything
19:20 Learning to Trust Yourself
21:10 Loving Yourself AND Wanting Growth
22:50 Stop Looking for All the Answers
24:00 Nobody Is the Expert on YOU
25:50 “You’re Broken. Let Me Fix You.”
27:45 The Two Extremes of Self-Growth
28:45 Megan’s Relationship With Anxiety
30:00 Finding Your Healthy Middle
31:15 You Don’t Need Fixing
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