Following the recovery journey from the previous episode “Boiling the Frog – Anti-Surrender” Mike & Glenn are talking about the same gentleman, but later in his recovery journey when he discovers true surrender.
What changed? He knew he was struggling, he had lost his rental house and was staying in extended stay, but in the last week:
– Lost his job and was not working
– Still drinking and drugging
– His family cut him off
Dive in with Mike & Glenn as they talk about what it took for this gentleman to reach true surrender and what it looked like.
Success in getting on the sober path is surrender. At the coffee shop, Mike & Glenn discuss what surrender and struggle look like when you don’t surrender, anti-surrender, and how it’s like boiling a frog.
How do you boil a frog? ‘Boiling the frog’ is referring to the premise that if you stick a frog in boiling water, he jumps out immediately. Put him in warm water then raise up the water temperature a little at a time, he doesn’t notice – then he’s boiled. Alcoholism is progressive, it gets worse and worse and worse. It’s like turning the temperature up on the water the frog is swimming in.
Glenn talks about the recovery journey of a gentleman he sponsored in AA who started with an attitude of anti-surrender – and the pain, suffering, refusal and ego that accompanied the anti-surrender.
After listening to this episode, jump into the next one where Glenn talks about the same person – but later in his journey when he discovers true surrender.
The spotlight is on Karen this week! Karen is on the Al-Anon journey while her husband Bruce is on the sober path journey with AA. Desperation brought Karen to Al-Anon and she tells us about changing her mindset from resentment because Bruce made this her problem, to realizing she had to switch the focus to herself, give up control because she could only control herself – not Bruce – and start restoring her sanity.
Table for 4 at the coffee shop today! Bruce is on the sober path journey with AA. Karen is on the Al-Anon journey. Married for 34 years, Bruce has been sober for the last 17 years. Bruce and Karen have gone through it. Listen to Bruce’s story today as he tells us about losing his soul to addiction and deciding he didn’t want to spread this disease to his family – instead he chose recovery.
Ninety days is a habit driver – learning and practicing new coping, living skills and tools. So what does that look like? Join Mike & Glenn in the coffee shop as they talk about the most important things to know and what to expect in the first 90 days.
In Julianna’s story of experience, strength and hope, she shares with Mike & Glenn the cracks and things she is repairing in her life – and she’s repairing them with beauty, much like the art of kintsugi. An ancient Japanese art for restoring ceramics, kintsugi highlights broken cracks with streams of gold and lacquer. Once repaired, it becomes a unique piece of beauty outshining the original.
If you’re 10% listening and 90% thinking about what to say next, you’re not living in the moment. Join Mike & Glenn as they discuss what it means to live in the moment. It’s amazing the library of tools and references you can go back to if you stay present in the moment – focused, paying attention, listening, absorbing and inputting things into your mental library.
Dr. John is back! Talking about ISM in the coffee shop. What is ISM? Dr. John says it’s the Human Condition – we are the only creatures on the planet that have the capacity to introspect, to torment ourselves with regret for the past, fear for the future. How do you get out of that ISM? Dr. John proposes the key to sobriety is finding a way out without alcohol.
Table for three! Dr. John joins Mike & Glenn at the coffee shop to talk about honesty, expectations, reality, and what it means to work the program. Listen in as Dr. John shares about pivotal moments in his recovery journey, including what was said to him early in sobriety as he contemplated not continuing with AA that made him stick around and stay sober.
Glenn rang the bell recently at 8 years sober! In the coffee shop with Mike he shares how his life is totally different today than it was 8 years ago, and it’s magnificent how life changed. Who was Glenn 8 years ago? Who is Glenn today? What led him to sobriety? Join us at the coffee shop to hear Glenn’s story of reflection, loss and triumph.