Following the recovery journey from the previous episode “Boiling the Frog – Anti-Surrender” Mike & Glenn are talking about the same gentleman, but later in his recovery journey when he discovers true surrender.
What changed? He knew he was struggling, he had lost his rental house and was staying in extended stay, but in the last week:
– Lost his job and was not working
– Still drinking and drugging
– His family cut him off
Dive in with Mike & Glenn as they talk about what it took for this gentleman to reach true surrender and what it looked like.
Success in getting on the sober path is surrender. At the coffee shop, Mike & Glenn discuss what surrender and struggle look like when you don’t surrender, anti-surrender, and how it’s like boiling a frog.
How do you boil a frog? ‘Boiling the frog’ is referring to the premise that if you stick a frog in boiling water, he jumps out immediately. Put him in warm water then raise up the water temperature a little at a time, he doesn’t notice – then he’s boiled. Alcoholism is progressive, it gets worse and worse and worse. It’s like turning the temperature up on the water the frog is swimming in.
Glenn talks about the recovery journey of a gentleman he sponsored in AA who started with an attitude of anti-surrender – and the pain, suffering, refusal and ego that accompanied the anti-surrender.
After listening to this episode, jump into the next one where Glenn talks about the same person – but later in his journey when he discovers true surrender.
The spotlight is on Karen this week! Karen is on the Al-Anon journey while her husband Bruce is on the sober path journey with AA. Desperation brought Karen to Al-Anon and she tells us about changing her mindset from resentment because Bruce made this her problem, to realizing she had to switch the focus to herself, give up control because she could only control herself – not Bruce – and start restoring her sanity.
Table for 4 at the coffee shop today! Bruce is on the sober path journey with AA. Karen is on the Al-Anon journey. Married for 34 years, Bruce has been sober for the last 17 years. Bruce and Karen have gone through it. Listen to Bruce’s story today as he tells us about losing his soul to addiction and deciding he didn’t want to spread this disease to his family – instead he chose recovery.
Ninety days is a habit driver – learning and practicing new coping, living skills and tools. So what does that look like? Join Mike & Glenn in the coffee shop as they talk about the most important things to know and what to expect in the first 90 days.